We’ve all been exposed to broken and defiled ideas of love from the broken world we live in.   Whether it was through our childhood home life, dating experiences gone bad, or broken marriages, we all have some pieces of our hearts that have been affected by the wounds we’ve received in the name of love.

Most of us don’t know how to properly give or receive love in a healthy way. 

This ends up affecting all of our relationships and continues to perpetuate a broken ideal of love in the world around us. There is lots we could say about love, but I want to focus in on two major dysfunctions when it comes to understanding love.

First, we may find ourselves continually searching to fill a void, trying to earn love through people pleasing, overworking and seeking approval and acceptance from the people we encounter.  Outside of God’s love, we will never feel a love that fulfils and sustains us.  So, we keep on searching, draining all the love we can out of every relationship we walk in to.

Maybe that’s not you.  You might be the one who withdraws, wounded and jaded by love.  Hurt so badly that we begin to build walls to keep people out.  We guard ourselves against further abuse, abandonment, rejection or wounding by retreating into isolation and not really allowing anyone to love us at all.

The enemy would love for us to stay in this broken state.

But thank God he didn’t leave us like this floundering on our own.  Like the loving Father He is, He heard the cry of all humanity, and was compelled to run towards us.  He was compelled to bring us an answer and the answer was Jesus. God chooses to reveal his love to us through the person of Jesus.

Ready to listen to the audio message?  Here it is…


Jesus came to teach us what real love is.

He fills us completely so we can stop looking for love in all the wrong places.

He heals the broken places of our hearts so we can learn to really love again.

Ephesians 3:17-19

I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lords holy people, to grasp how wide and long and height and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge — that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

When our roots grow down deep in God’s love, it becomes our source of nourishment and stability.  His love fills the void, that hunger in us to love and be loved.  His love gives us a sense of security even when things around us are unstable.

Paul says in this scripture that we can both understand and experience God’s love.  It’s one thing to know He loves us in our heads, but it’s another thing to experience to the degree that it settles in our hearts.

No matter what your experience has been, how broken your concept of love is, it is possible to understand God’s love and experience it. Your broken heart is not too much for God’s love to break through and bring healing and restoration.

Psalm 147:3

He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds

God’s love changes everything. It changes us.

His love wraps itself around the deepest wounds of our hearts and heals them completely.  It’s then that we can begin to lay down our striving to please and break down the walls we’ve built and let the love in.

1 John 4:9-12

God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins. Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.

This is real love.

Before we were even born He choose us.

Before we could do anything to earn it He loved us.

His love pursued us and brought us close.

His love continues to work in us so that we can begin to reflect His love to the world around us.

This teaching became a three-session video devotional series as well.



Brenda Drost is a Pastor and Speaker who is known for her warm smile and passionate preaching style. Whether she is teaching at her home church or out on the road, she loves to bring challenging messages that actually help people live out their faith in the real world.  She and her husband live on their farm in the beautiful Niagara Region of Ontario, Canada where they have raised their four children.   Find out more about Brenda here.


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