There is an art to being a good listener.
There’s a vibe we pick up when people are not good listeners… and no matter how old we are or mature we’ve become there is a little voice inside us that says, just stop talking… no one cares. That voice shuts down our pathway to freedom and healing.
But a good listener allows the space for people to be themselves. To bring all of who they are to the table… the good the bad and the really ugly. A good listener will arouse vulnerability and without saying a word can open up a space where we are set free just by speaking things we’ve held deep inside for a long time.
Listeners understand the power of uttering the deepest cries of our hearts aloud so that what was once held in darkness can be exposed to the Light.
A good listener doesn’t have all the answers. I used to get that wrong. I used to think that if I was really listening well I would have some bit of wisdom and solace to give to any hurting soul. But I’ve learned the beauty and power of being able to look someone in the eyes and tell them I just don’t know what to say. To hold their hand. To cry together. But to be ok with not having answers… because if we had all the answers we wouldn’t need faith.
A great listener has honed the skill of having one ear always open to heaven, allowing the Holy Spirit to be present in our conversation and listening to the whispers from above for guidance and direction.
Good listeners have changed my life… not by any power of their own but by the simple fact that they allowed space for me to be me and express myself without fear of judgement.
I want to be a great listener… a safe place of refuge for the hurting and lost. A place where people can find freedom in just being heard.
Be quick to listen and slow to speak.
Brenda Drost is a Pastor and Speaker who is known for her warm smile and passionate preaching style. Whether she is teaching at her home church or out on the road, she loves to bring challenging messages that actually help people live out their faith in the real world. She and her husband live on their farm in the beautiful Niagara Region of Ontario, Canada where they have raised their four children. Find out more about Brenda here.