Comparison tempts us to stay isolated and incapable of working together effectively with other women. We need to dig down deep and expose the lies of comparison in our lives in order to move past the rhetoric in our own heads and move into the plans and purposes of God.
Imagine a world where men and women could all run alongside of each other, cheering each other on to bigger and better things. All too often we allow comparison to trip us up in our race and sideline us with hurt, disappointment, bitterness and frustration.
It’s time to put some simple strategies in place to protect our hearts and minds against the bitter pangs of comparison. Here are four practical things you can do to kick comparison to the curb anytime it tries to rear its ugly head in your life and ministry.
Cultivate gratitude in the everyday.
Being grateful to God for the journey he has us on is the key. Find ways on a daily basis to reflect on the things God is doing in your life and continually cultivate a heart of gratitude for where he has you. If you are constantly looking to someday in the future to settle your sense of joy and purpose, you’ll miss the wonderful things that are happening today.
Encourage someone in their journey.
Take the time to honour what God is doing in someone else’s life. That woman who you might be tempted to compare yourself with… why not send her a note thanking her for her obedience and let her know that following what God is doing in her life is an encouragement to you. Tell her that you can see God moving in her life and encourage her to keep on going. We all need to be cheered on once in a while. Be that girl.
Ask meaningful questions.
Instead of getting stuck comparing yourself to someone who is doing similar work to you, why not reach out and ask some questions. Ask her to share how she got where she is today, what obstacles she’s overcome and what her favourite bits of wisdom are that she learned along the way. When we humble ourselves enough to ask questions, it’s a win, win. Most women will be happy to share their journey and encourage you on yours. Take the first step to break down the walls that want to isolate us and make a move towards unity.
Look for what God is doing.
This is a shift of perspective that takes our eyes of what a particular person is accomplishing or getting done in their life and looking instead at what God is doing through them. If we are followers of Christ, running after his calling and purpose in our lives, then we are on the same team. We are not pitted against each other, but rather we are allies who can run together. When another woman wins one for the Kingdom of God, we all win.
Brenda Drost is a Pastor and Speaker who is known for her warm smile and passionate preaching style. Whether she is teaching at her home church or out on the road, she loves to bring challenging messages that actually help people live out their faith in the real world. She and her husband live on their farm in the beautiful Niagara Region of Ontario, Canada where they have raised their four children. Find out more about Brenda here.